Death Café’s in Ballarat & Footscray with coffin cake.

On Saturday (August 8th) I attended both the Ballarat and Footscray Death Cafes. Always wantingFullSizeRender to know about how these transpired I was treated to a very raw emotional yet positive experience. Both Cafe’s were in essence the same structure, with varying attendees at each which brought the variety of conversations, experiences and attitudes in a web of uniquie discussion about dying, death, burial, grieving and many more topics not fir your usual coffee morning. Some attendees were there to talk about their death, a family or friends death, what is available now for burials and funerals and where is this happening, some where not comfortable with the discussions yet some eagerly contributed and leaned in for more information. Ages ranged from late 20’s to early eighties both a mix of culture, gender and interests.

 The Death Café is where people drink tea and coffee, eat cake and discuss death. The aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives. It is usually a random coffee shop but organised with a facilitator who directs conversation and ensures respectful interactions.

Dying to Know day was about raising awareness.

“… provides a great focal point for encouraging local communities to have conversations about life and death. It’s not about so-called ‘experts’ telling other people what to do. It’s about people being empowered to talk with each other and say what they need.” – Molly Carlile AM D3K Day Ambassador.

The Death Cafe’s I attended were a great conversation about death and dying in an informal non threatening environment. Everyone came away with more questions, new insights and common ideas about death and dying locally and globally.

A key theme was why do we do what we always do? Is it the quick removal of the deceased to free up a bed, the funeral procession of sameness and burial, what is available? … how do we decide between cremation and burial? Who visits a grave, it’s not just the family according to the Death Café participants it’s the work colleagues, friends and distant friends even.. overriding discussion about traditions and why we need to follow them..

The Death Cafe’s are monthly occurences and aim to spread the opportunity for those that wish to chat about Death and Dying over a coffee.. I will return to talk some more and engage in discussion and listen to experiences as it makes it real for me .. something that is guaranteed, going to happen at some point to us all.